Notes on winning and losing

It reveals who we are

“There was a saying that a man’s true character was revealed in defeat. I thought it was also revealed in victory.”

~ Alison Goodman

I have seen quite a bit of judgment, criticism, and even shame for those experiencing genuine fear or grief right now. Whether this grief is "valid" or "real" for another is not up to us to decide. It is not to be shamed, ridiculed, celebrated, mocked, or spiritually bypassed with platitudes. It is real.

If you are celebrating, please do not judge those that are not. Instead, listen well and help offer the light of your courage. Walk someone through their own darkness with patience and empathy. Be an ally. Their story and experience are different than yours. Hold space for it. That is your work.

If you do feel the heaviness of grief, that is absolutely okay. It makes sense. Grief is a natural and healthy reaction to this kind of change. Allow some space to regroup, find solid ground, honor your feelings, and reach out for support. The next steps will show themselves. That is your work.

We are ALL in this together. If this time can teach us anything (and the lessons will be many and challenging), that is one. Let us start there.